General Board
There is life after fat
Posted By: Brian (64.12.107.39)
Date: Monday, 21 January 2002, at 6:34 a.m.In Response To: Oh, well (Rosie)
Hi again Rosie. I don't know how fat you are, but for every fat person that says "I'd either lose the weight or commit suicide if it came to having my husband insert my tampon", there's just as many thin that would say, "I'd either lose weight or commit suicide if I was that woman Rosie's size".
To me, both statements seem wildly insane because in both cases, death is prefered over fat. And it's sad that you seem to be in complete understanding of such people's distain for fat. But the absolutely wonderful thing is, you yourself are a walking, talking, breathing testimonial that there is life after fat, and that many pleasures can be enjoyed A.F. (after fat). If you're able to prove to a skinny person that the sunrise looks just as beautiful in your eyes as it does in a thin person's eye, maybe a morbidly obese person who simply can't lose the weight could convince you of the same thing.
And when I was saying that mental strength is necessarry to face the challenge of losing 3-400lbs, I wasn't refering to if one is mentally sound of not, I was refering to maintaining your sanity during the constant disappointments of attempting to lose so much weight, or having to deal with the constant pangs of hunger when trying to lose so much weight. When I was told by my doctor that I had to shed 20 pounds to get my blood pressure and cholesterol down, I thought it would be a breeze. But in my late 30s, I discovered it ain't NEARLY as easy as it used to be for me to whip myself back into shape. Running 9 miles a week and constantly skipping rope wasn't showing any great results for quite a long time(as I mentioned in a post last year when I was getting frustrated that the weight wasn't changing much), so I simply couldn't imagine how an obese person that can barely walk to the door could maintain his sanity when he discovers his five weeks of leg lifts and 100 yard walks hasn't produced much positive results. The mental strain must be a bitch.
A person who is so desparate to lose weight that they'll allow someone to cut their guts open and shrink their bellies and risk serious harm has to be a person that is shouting at the top of their lungs "I can't lose the fucking weight!".
I'm actually just as unclear as you are about why people don't freak out and do something about their weight when they hit, say, the 250 lb mark. But I'm also aware that there's a number of serious circumstances that prevented them from shedding those extra 50 or so pounds. And I don't always think laziness is the reason.
Since you seem to feel fat is somewhat undesirable, I couldn't imagine you ate YOURself to being a mid-size BBW with a cake in one hand and a smile on your face. And the fact that you're STILL fat after some length of time clearly lets me know that weightloss for you or ANYone is an extremely difficult thing to handle.
"No, I said *I* would do that. I did not say anyone else should. "
Come on, Rosie. That's like me going up to another black person and saying "If I were as dark as you, I'd either get a skin bleach like Michael Jackson or I'd commit suicide. But I'm just speaking for myself here! Don't take any offense buddy!". Russell's wife is not only a victim (yes, a victim) of Russell to a great extent, but she's also a human with feelings.
Brian