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Win One for The Fat Girl..Any of yall....
Posted By: Staci (64.12.105.41)
Date: Sunday, 19 November 2000, at 10:43 p.m.ever experience this sort of blatant prejudice??
This weekend, I went to Charlotte NC. I go there once a month with a friend of mine to hang out, drink it up, party whatever..just to have a great time. I love going out because it gives me a chance to really dress up, u know get all fixed up and all.
Last nite, I chose to wear black pleather pants, a "gothic" black angel shirt and black boots. My hair was to die for and my makeup was hot!! This i know because several men hit on me as soon as i hit the door!Me and Sherry went to The Body Shoppe, a male strip club. There are women of all shapes, sizes and obviously~~ Classes. Sitting around the stage from Sherry and I were a group of "bachlorettes". They were drinking it up, getting a bit loud, but hey we are all there for a good time. Ladies Nite Out right??
A bit later in the nite i headed out of the club into the foyer area to the restroom. I got in there and was in the stall when I heard a group of ladies come in. As their conversation progressed, I realized it was the group of ladies that was sitting next to Sherry and I. I thought to myself wow they are really drunk..but didn't really pay them any mind. Until, this one chick goes..you know, I feel sorry for all those fat girls in there. Hmmm. Im now standing in the stall, fixin to exit, but thought well let me just see what she says. Another chick chimes in with yeah. they got to come hang out in the strip club and spend their whole paycheck to get attention from a man.And did you see that chick over from us? Shes pretty for a fat girl but god why waste such a pretty face on that body, who does she think she is with that Alex guy hanging on her, you know she probably paid him.... Another chick says for real..did ya see those 2 fat ones sitting by the door on the way in..they look really pathetic, they didnt even put on descent clothes. (i knew who she was talking about as i had seen them..in fact they are there everytime ive ever been, sitting in the same place, they never look happy, but it never occured to me it was cause they were fat.) Another chick says and did u see the fat one with the blonde hair sitting alone at that back table. she is fucken huge. By this time I was torn. I was pissed ..how dare they presume that due to weight we were all unhappy yet i felt embarrassed because here I was trapped in the stall..and i was....{whisper}FAT. So i stood there and debated on what to do. The more they talked the more pissed I got. The last straw was when the one obviously getting married said, ill bet they are jealous of all the girls like us in there...WTF..i swung open that door with a fierceness and definitely a confidence I wasnt feeing 2 seconds before. I walked right in the midst of all 8 of them and said, hello ladies, and walked past like i wasnt gonna say anything, then peeked back at them and said, youd be surprised as to why some of us fat girls are here..and oh yeah..ps: Alex loves fat girls...i dont need my paycheck in here..and winked at them. They were all standing there with mouths hanging wide open..and thats how i left them. Now thats not to say that I wasnt very hurt by what I heard, but i didnt let those losers take my dignity.
When they came back in the club, I had told Sherry and Alex what happened, they could see i was visibly upset. These women came back in looked at me and Alex bless his heart..he laid a big lip lock on me as they looked our way..and the "women" just sorta crawled back into their seats. I hope they felt shame for what I had caught them saying. I doubt it tho, and if they did it probably lasted all of 20 seconds.
The thing that gets me is, no matter how good i look, how nice my clothes are, how groovy my hair is, how nice my make up is, to some people i will never measure up because i am THE FAT GIRL. and that chaps my ass. With one stupid conversation these ladies damaged my pride so that the next 2 hours i could not get those words they said about me out of my head. I felt like everyone was looking at me, thinking the same thing. It was so hard to go on and not let them ruin the nite for me.
At least on the outside, and when it counted, I told them whats what and walked out of that damn bathroom with my head held high. I guess thats the first step .
How do ya handle stuff like this? do ya let losers like this drag ya down? And god, where do we find the strength to stand up for something we shouldnt even have to be defending to start with?
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