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Re: That's bullshit.

Posted By: Laurie <Lauriestmd@aol.com> (64.6.128.240)
Date: Wednesday, 26 July 2000, at 1:07 p.m.

In Response To: Re: That's bullshit. (Stephi)

I left the subject title the same because I can't think of anything more appropriate than THAT title. I know this subject has been beaten to death, but I thought I'd offer a few words from the jayded one here.

Where to start, where to start, where to start...

Alright, first of all...good LORD woman...the first thing you need to do is quit giving a good god damn what ANYONE else thinks about you. YOU are the one who has to look at yourself in the mirror every day. If you're comfortable with who you are, then tell the rest of the world to screw themselves. If you're not...well...YOU are the only one who can make that change. Quit allowing your mind to play games with you. Do you think if you were thin that people wouldn't find SOMETHING to talk about behind your back? Give me a break...

Secondly...quit "lookin for love in all the wrong places". (Oh boy am I gonna catch it for this one!) The little world that surrounds us all at home is in no way indicative of the 'real' world. Everyone has some guilty closet pleasure they enjoy "in the sheets" but very few will ever admit it "in the streets". Chat with a guy and THEN trade pics? For what? Why? Good grief!!! Do you walk around all day with your eyes closed so that you don't see who you're talking to? Hell girl...trade the pic first! Why waste your time getting to know someone you won't have a physical attraction to? If you're in chat, you should have a profile...and if you have a profile...it should proudly state that you are a BBW...and if you want...put your measurements in there. Yeah, I know...I've taken a lot of flack about having my measurements in my profile...but you know what? I really don't give a shit. It weeds out the idiots like your brothers (no offense) who would never look twice at me and if they did it would be to make fun. You have a RIGHT to be as choosey as anyone else and don't you DARE ever "settle".

Don't give me the 11 years of unhappiness routine either. I've been there...and done that....and yep, I gave up on love to. I was certain there was no such thing...and no true men. Yes...my ex was an idiot just like yours...but you know what? I can GUARANTEE I'm better off without him...and I'm sure you're better off without yours.

Let go of the 'world' and what they think. I'm not here to cheer you up and I'm not here to make you feel better. I've found my love and nothing will ever come between us...but that's not my reason for writing either. If it was, I would have started out with flowery phrases of "hang in there, you'll find love", etc. Hold on a moment while I puke. THAT's bullshit. You wanna know why?

Because you're right. You're NOT going to find love. You don't like yourself, you don't like the people around you (yes, I'm sure you're well liked and have lots of friends - that's not my point), you're too damn concerned with what other people think, and while you sit here and bitch about how other people make comments about you, you're running down everyone else you've ever come across.

Well guess what? Changing your world starts right there where you're sitting. It starts with you. Tell the idiot who told you that you have a pretty face thank you...and finish it with the suggestion that next time they engage their brain before engaging their mouth. Quit 'allowing' people to do that to you.

Oysh...I've gone on long enough here so I'll finally draw this to a close. To those women reading this who refuse to settle and yet still carry that secret hope that true love DOES exist...no matter HOW long it takes to find it...I applaud you...and you're right. For those of you who want to sit here moaning and groaning about how pathetic your life is and how there is no love and how it's never going to work for you...well...you're right...because the gift of love isn't seen by those who have turned their backs on it.

Alright, I'm out...

Laurie

P.S. and if you're farting in your sleep, quit sleeping on your stomach...

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