Due to the sheer numbers of responses alone (over seventy, not counting corollary threads) this post qualifies as Post of the Week. But there are other reasons I chose this post. Like it or not, feeder/feedee relationships are a part of the size community. But like all stereotypes, there are untruths ascribed to and assumptions made about feeders/feedees. Many of us have heard the dramatic tales about a feeder fattening up his woman only to leave her when she became immobile. Many of us assume that a man and woman who enjoy a feeder/feedee relationship are "abnormal", or that the woman (usually, but not always, the feedee gender is female) chooses to gain weight strictly to please her mate without thought to her own needs. These are only assumptions, not facts. Like every story, the truth always lies somewhere in the middle, and to make assumptions about these kind of relationships without knowledge to back it up is unfortunate--like anything else, each relationship should be assessed independently. In any lifestyle choice, there are going to be people who act as judge, jury and executioner--and feederism is no different. The "feeders" accuse the "non-feeders" of being fat-phobic. The "non-feeders" accuse the "feeders" of being health destroying control freaks. Perhaps they are both wrong.
A feedee speaks..............
Posted By: Tubular Belle <atomicvomit@yahoo.com> (12.79.192.158)
Date: Monday, 20 March 2000, at 7:01 p.m.It seems to be de rigeur on this and other boards for some to revile feeder/feedee relationships.
I guess I can understand this in a way - people are afraid of things they don't understand and some here and elsewhere loathe their own fat bodies enough that the thought of gaining on purpose is repellent to them.
I can understand that view, I mean why increase something about yourself that you hate?
Fine and good - don't gain any weight...and for those of you males who hate feeders/ feedees, don't encourage anyone to get fatter.
As a matter of fact, encourage fat people to diet, have weight loss surgery, whatever they want.
Whatever THEY want....get it?As for me, I want to get fatter, and I will, whether you like it or not.
The only way to keep me from it would be to put me in jail. Perhaps there are people who would consider doing that, the fear of fat is so intense in some.Thank God we live in a country where adults can make free choices about what to eat and what sort of thing turns them on sexually. I believe in personal responsibility and am fully aware that there is a price to pay for everything.
I make the choices that I make in my life as a fully informed adult who can read, write and reason. My husband and I both work for a living, we are not a drain on the social welfare system and have made plans to make sure that continues.
Don't waste your time feeling sorry for poor pathetic feedee/gainers - most if not all are in happy, committed long-term relationships.
Everyone and their dog online seems to have heard some urban legend of the feedee who gained to 600# only to be dumped. I have yet to meet this person, and I know a lot of feedees.
I like being fat, I like getting fatter, and what's more, I liked it before I ever met my husband.
I love giving my husband his hearts desire - it turns me on to see what each new pound and rippling fold of creamy flesh does to him.
Eating something sensuous and creamy during sex is the ultimate pleasure - one that I will keep allowing myself to indulge in for as long as I care to.I and other feedees choose not to cave in to such coercive social pressure against fat.
We willingly blaze trails you dare not tread, enjoying ourselves all the while as we (and you, by the way) get fatter.
See you there! Tubularbelle