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Posted By: Pete <phopping@annapolis.net> (208.130.51.98)
Date: Thursday, 4 November 1999, at 6:00 p.m.In Response To: But it starts with a physical attraction, no? (lvan)
OK I'm going to go out on a limb here and talk about a subject that is painful to me, even thirty years later.
In high school I fell in love with a girl who wasn't pretty - not really - and wasn't cute. It wasn't her physical shape or her size (a little bit chubby but not fat) it was the way she looked at me that made me fall for her. That, and her compassion and empathy. I had just lost my father to diabetes after a long, lingering final illness just two days before school started in 1965. This girl sat next to me in my biology class and we'd talk. One day I was feeling pretty down and I guess it was obvious. She took my hand and looked me in the eyes and I just melted. I can't decribe this look but it affected me so much that it was all I saw. I fell in love with her and it was that look that did it. I still remember that look, and how it made me feel. We dated all through high school and she gave me happiness at a time that could have been very unhappy.
Then, one evening she started crying and said that her father had been abusing her since she was 7 years old. I called the cops. The father was arrested. My family made us break up. It broke my heart.
It was that look. She understood pain. I never got over her.